Most of us tend to have a few very close friends, and a wider group of
friends that we associate with and socialize with to a lesser extent.
Of those friends who are closest to you, are they positive people? Do they
offer you support and quality feedback? Are they currently involved in
relationships? And if so, are they happy in their relationships? If a
friend (or friends) is single, do they discourage you from finding a
partner because they are single, or do they support you?
Our friends, particularly our closest ones, can have a huge impact and
influence on us, whether we are conscious of it or not. We are also often
judged by the company we keep.
Guilt by association is a stigma that we are all vulnerable and
susceptible to. If we socialize regularly with a person who behaves a
certain way or has questionable character, for instance, we too risk being
judged by others as being the same even if we are not.
In your quest to find the right man for you, it is important to consider
who you associate with, and when and where you do.
As a simple example, say you have a girlfriend who is not interested in a
serious relationship and prefers casual flings. When she’s out socialising
she acts accordingly. Now let’s say you are looking for something more
than just casual sex; a deeper, more meaningful relationship. If your
friend is putting out the vibe of ‘pick me up and take me home’, guys will
assume that you are only after the same thing she is, and you will attract
that sort of guy.
This is not to suggest that you can never hang out with a friend who is
that way inclined. It’s just advisable to choose your company carefully
given the situation. If you are socializing in an environment where you
believe there is the possibility of meeting someone you may really like,
then it is best to be surrounded by like-minded people so that there is
little chance of confusion about your intentions.
The same applies to anyone you know who has the tendency to become a
little rude and obnoxious when they are intoxicated. Most of us have
probably encountered a situation where a friend, associate or work
colleague has had too much to drink (or can’t handle their liquor) and
causes an embarrassing scene.
A scenario like that is not one that will help you to attract and meet a
quality man.
Always strive to socialize with positive people as much as you can. An air
of positivity emanating from happy and smiling people breeds the
attraction vibe.
Certain friends and acquaintances are fun for some occasions, but may not
always be the right crowd to socialize with on other occasions. Ponder
your circle of friends. If they are all good quality friends who genuinely
have your best interests at heart, you will have nothing to worry about.
However, if some are a tad selfish, prone to negativity, or exhibit
undesirable behaviour in some way, you may want to reconsider just how
much time you spend associating with people like that.
Remember: It’s all about your attraction factor and how a possible partner
is going to perceive you.
The above article is an excerpt from the author's book "Turn Me On: How To
Attract A Man" by Darren G. Burton. To view or purchase a copy, visit:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/1409221822
