Men, as much as women, like to be appreciated. We like compliments, need
love and support, and a partner who is passionate about us as individuals,
and passionate about our relationship together.
We are all probably guilty of this. Male or female, we all, at least on
occasion, fall into the trap of taking our partner for granted.
Do you ever feel like this with your guy?
Stop and think for a moment. Does your mind ever harbour any of these
thoughts?
• He’ll always be there
• We’ll have sex another time
• I don’t need to tell him I love him, he knows I do
• He should buy me dinner, he’s a man
• He knows I appreciate him
• It’s his job to do that
• I don’t have time to talk about this now
These types of thoughts, and they creep insidiously into all of our minds
from time to time, are signs of taking someone for granted.
Remaining diligent in your relationship - being conscious of showing
genuine appreciation, respect and gratitude – takes effort. And that’s the
answer right there. We get complacent, we take our partner for granted, we
take our relationships for granted, because the alternative takes effort!
Think back to when you first met your partner; the excitement you felt,
the thrill of the blossoming romance. Chances are you were constantly
making a conscious effort to put your best foot forward, to please him as
much as possible, thanking him for every little thing he did with warm
hugs and passionate kisses.
Why should this change?
The only reason it changes is that, over time, we start to slacken off in
our efforts. We have our partner now. It takes energy and effort to
maintain that level of intense interaction and eagerness to please.
How do you know he’ll always be there? We never know how much time we
have. Live for the now. Enjoy the moment. Don’t put off for tomorrow what
you can do today.
It would be naive and somewhat unrealistic to suggest that any couple can
maintain the level of passion and intensity first experienced at the start
of, and during the early stages of the relationship. But we can make an
effort in some way, every day, to keep the passion alive and eradicate
boring routine.
Try and think of at least one thing you can do every single day to show
your man that you love him and appreciate him. This will have a very
positive affect on him. Positive actions produce positive reactions.
Chances are, he’ll start doing the same in return.
The above article is an excerpt from the author's book "How To Keep Your
Man: And Keep Him For Good" by Darren G. Burton. To view or purchase a
copy, visit:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/1409203786
