Being trapped in this unenviable place opens a person up to a whole new
world of potential pain and emotional damage. Not to mention leaving one
with an inability to get on with their lives and move forward.
No matter how long you were with your partner, no matter how much you love
them, no matter how much they promise you that the two of you will get
back together some day, limbo land is not a place you want to allow
yourself to wander.
If your ex-partner truly wanted to be with you, then they would never have
broken it off in the first place. Sure, maybe they could have made a
mistake and want you back; but it’s not likely. Anyway, how long are you
prepared to wait around to find this out? How much of your valuable time
and life do you want to waste being stuck in a realm of emptiness and
further confusion?
Believe me, limbo land is a very frustrating place. I’ve been there. Don’t
make the error of falling into this trap just because it feels too hard to
let go.
Often it’s a case of the other partner wishing to keep their options open.
They want to see who else they can find, and if that doesn’t work out,
they know they will have you there waiting to fall back on. Comforting for
them, not so comforting for you.
Do you really want to be that person? Second, third, tenth choice? No, you
don’t. You deserve far better than that.
If you find yourself falling into this trap, if your ex is keeping you
hooked in with false promises of hope, get out of limbo land as fast as
you can. Ignore the feelings that will fight and struggle against your
decision.
You have to get out of that scenario. It’s soul destroying.
The above article is an excerpt from the author's book "When It’s Over:
How To Mend That Broken Heart" by Darren G. Burton. To view or purchase a
copy, visit:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/1409214761
