How To Attract A Man: What Men Want (Part 1) by Darren G. Burton

Physical Attraction

Men are visual creatures and want to be visually stimulated. A man needs to find something physically attractive about a woman in order for him to be interested in her. It’s just a fact of life.

Some men need this visual stimulation to a higher degree than others. We men are all individuals with different tastes, and we all vary. What one man desires or finds attractive in a particular woman, another man may not; and vice versa.

Men like women to be confident in themselves and the way they look. A woman doesn’t have to be physically blessed with a pretty face and shapely figure to be able to do this. Much of it is about a girl’s state of mind and whether she feels positively or negatively about her appearance. Obviously if you are naturally beautiful, having confidence in your appearance will be quite an easy task. If your face and figure aren’t generally considered gorgeous, or universally attractive, the ability to feel as confident about your appearance will be a little more difficult.

But it can be done.

Throughout my experiences in life I have seen some of the most average looking women constantly being surrounded by, or hit on, by men. Why? Because of their level of self-confidence. They don’t believe that they are plain or average looking. They also don’t believe that they are a super model either. They are realistic. But what they all have had is a genuine high level of confidence in themselves that they are attractive, and men are drawn to this.

Build your all-important confidence level. If there is an area of your appearance that you feel you could improve upon, and you have the power and ability to improve it, then definitely work on it. It may be a few extra pounds on the hips or waist. Losing weight is never easy, but it is something you have some control over, and something positive you can strive toward.

The more positive actions you take, the more your confidence level will rise, and the greater your attraction factor will be.

Support And Understanding

Most men, if not all, desire to have an understanding and supportive woman by their side; a partner who not only shares in their goals and dreams, but believes in them and their man’s ability to achieve them.

This is very important to the majority of men.

And just like women, a man likes having the comforting thought of going home at the end of the day to a woman who truly cares about him; his welfare and his needs.

We all know that men and women are different; both biologically and psychologically. What women want and need is often different to what men need and desire. For a man to honestly be happy and contented, he needs a woman who is both understanding and tolerant of those differences. If you find the right partner, your differences in gender will prove to be complimentary and beneficial rather than a source of conflict leading to arguments and unrest. What he lacks you will make up for. In areas you are lacking he will fill the gap.

If approached with the right heart attitude, these inherent differences (as well as the similarities) can combine to create a very powerful and enduring union.

Men want and need support and understanding from the girl in their lives. Always keep this in mind whilst seeking the right partner.

Companionship

Women often make the mistake of believing that only they seek companionship in a relationship with the opposite sex, and that men are just in it for the physical favours. While in some instances this may be true, the majority of the time it is not the case.

Men need companionship too. Sure, they experience male bonding with their mates, but that is nothing like the same as the companionship a man seeks and experiences with the right woman.

This unique form of companionship is the coming together of two hearts, minds, emotions and bodies to form a very special partnership indeed. Men often won’t admit it, but most men want that equally as much as women do.

We males generally are not good at expressing how we feel, nor do we exhibit a lot of emotion much of the time. But that doesn’t mean we don’t feel! Of course we have feelings. We have egos, we harbour hopes and dreams, we can get sad and depressed, happy and exuberant. And we can experience love: The desire to love and be loved.

A deep, meaningful and respectful friendship with a woman, combined with the physical pleasures of romance, affection and sex, is the true heart-felt desire of virtually every man seeking out a long-term relationship.

Never ever doubt the fact that men want to find a true companion in a woman, just as much as a woman desires to find that in a man.

Sex

Yes, it’s true. Men need sex!

That’s right. We don’t just want it or desire it. A man truly, physically needs to have a regular sexual release.

Once again, that’s just the way we are wired mentally and constructed physically. It’s a fact of life and there is no denying it.

I’m not suggesting for one moment that women don’t need sex too, but men most definitely do.

We all do.

Not just because it’s enjoyable. All of us have hormones racing constantly through our bodies, a build up of sexual tensions and we all need that pleasurable release that comes with sex on a regular basis.

Often men are criticised for always wanting sex, or even being prone to being sexually demanding on occasion. This is only because we really physically need it. It’s not due to the fact that sex is all we want and care about, or all that we are interested in.

Far from it.

A great sex life can launch your relationship into a higher stratosphere. It brings you closer together as a couple. There is no greater joy in life than a loving couple having great sex together on a regular basis.

We should all be in this position: Having a great partner and a fantastic sex life with that partner.

Why not? It’s a wonderful and perfectly natural thing.

Once you have found your man, always try to keep that spice in your sex life and keep that spark firing. It’s true that the day to day rigours of life can take the shine off our sex lives. But only if we allow it. If we strive to keep our relationships balanced and healthy, show genuine affection, find time for romance, then there is no logical reason why we can’t indulge in euphoric and greatly satisfying sex together for a long, long time.

Feedback and Input

The majority of men genuinely enjoy and respect feedback from the woman in their life. A smart man will realise that he actually needs it. We all have our strengths and weaknesses, male or female, and there are always certain insights a woman can offer a situation that a man just won’t see.

A respectful and genuine man will want you to express your views on things, to tell him honestly what you think. Whether he agrees with what you have to say or not is irrelevant. The important thing is that you are showing an interest in something he is doing, is planning on doing, or is interested in.

Any man worth being with will relish feedback and input from his partner.

The above article is an excerpt from the author's book "Turn Me On: How To Attract A Man" by Darren G. Burton. To view or purchase a copy, visit: http://www.amazon.com/dp/1409221822