How To Attract A Man: What Men Want (Part 2) by Darren G. Burton

To Do Guy Stuff

Whether involved in a relationship or not, men will always want to do guy stuff.

Examples of which may include:

• Spending time with their mates
• Watching / Playing sport
• Business
• Some alone time
• Repairing, building, tinkering with things
• The BBQ

If a woman tries to prevent her partner from spending time with his mates, then she will be in for a world of trouble.

True, if a man is no longer single, he should commit much of his time to his female partner. But that doesn’t mean, and should never mean, he no longer needs or has time for his friends.

Most males love to watch their fair share of sport at the very least, or to play sport. Men generally love sports in one form or another. A man who watches too much sport will be a bore. And an inconsiderate one at that.

But a woman who doesn’t complain every time her man wants to watch his favourite footy team play will be much loved and appreciated.

If a man is entrepreneurial and business-minded, he will no doubt devote time to this cause. Hopefully he respects his woman enough to include her by seeking her valuable feedback, insights and intuition on the decisions he plans to make.

Many men often require some alone time. Even if it’s just to relax quietly with his own thoughts after a hard day. At times men won’t want companionship for a brief period, and will have patches where they don’t desire to talk.

If a man needs his space at times, let him have it.

A lot of males do have a natural inclination to want to either build things, make repairs, or tinker with the car engine and the like. It’s just inbuilt into the male psyche.

The BBQ

A realm where every male seems to adopt the role of head chef. After all, it is difficult to roll that sausage over so it doesn’t burn, or to turn that steak. Only we males are capable of doing this when it comes to cooking on the BBQ.

It doesn’t matter that his wife is a culinary genius in the kitchen. No one can cook on a BBQ like a man can.

Don’t Be A Bitch!

I am aware there are bestselling books on the market that state men love bitches and men marry bitches. But I’ll tell you; I’ve known a lot of guys in my lifetime and I’m yet to meet one single guy who likes a bitchy, bossy, demanding or nagging woman.

Not one!

Once again I’m not suggesting that anyone reading this book is like that. I am merely expressing what men like and need, and what they definitely don’t like and don’t need.

Nagging is a dreaded word for most men, and a dreaded sound. In all honesty – and a fact backed up by the surveys and interviews with men, women and couples alike – nagging is one of the things men hate the most in a relationship. It’s not an endearing quality.

I’m not here to say that all women on the planet are naggers, or that there is never any justifiable cause to nag. I’m just expressing the thoughts and feelings of the male population as a whole in saying that we men dislike it immensely.

Perhaps some men need to be nagged, or even deserve it? But maybe they don’t?

Nine times out of ten nagging is a character flaw; an annoying and repetitive bad habit that needs to be monitored, addressed and brought under control.

Unrealistic Expectations

Having unrealistic expectations of someone can lead to intense frustration and unhappiness.

What are your expectations of your future relationship? And what expectations will you have of, or will place upon, your man?

If a man is regularly having unrealistic expectations placed upon him by his partner, particularly ones that he just isn’t capable of living up to, he is going to grow frustrated; becoming disillusioned and aloof, depressed and negative. Ultimately he will blame her for the way he is feeling because he can’t live up to what it is she is asking of him. If things can’t be resolved, he will eventually want to end the relationship and move on.

You can’t expect your man to be something that he is either incapable of becoming, or is not interested in becoming.

Which leads us into the next topic.

Don’t Try To Change Him

A man likes to be accepted for who he is. He certainly doesn’t want a woman to come into his life and try to remodel him into something he does not want to be, or is not meant to be.

I think it’s fair to say that we all hate that kind of thing, whether we are male or female.

Through the results and feedback from my numerous surveys and interviews, it seems that it is quite a common mindset for women to meet a man they like, and then spend time and (often wasted) energy trying to reshape him into a man they will like more.

Why women have this inclination, no one really knows. But it is apparent that many do.

Possibly it stems from an impatience to meet a man and a resulting failure to wait it out for the right one to come along?

Maybe it’s inbuilt into the female psyche to want to improve something that is in their possession?

No one really has the answer.

But the logical solution to this dilemma is: Don’t try to change your man.

Of course, there is nothing at all wrong with encouraging a man in a direction he is happy to go in. Or to encourage him and support him in an endeavour to improve something about himself or his life.

This is an entirely different scenario to forcibly wanting to change your man in an area he does not want to change.

What’s In It For Him?

We touched on this topic in the first chapter. Now we will expand on it a little.

• What will you bring to a relationship?
• What are you offering a potential partner?

Briefly we have covered some things that men do and don’t want in a relationship and from a woman. You have spent some time learning more about yourself, knowing your good points and strengths, learning to deal with those areas of your persona that aren’t so flattering. Now it is time to put it all together and ponder exactly what you will be offering to a relationship and to a partner.

This could be a good time to write out another list. In fact, two lists. One should include the positives of what you have to offer, and the other will be a list of areas you feel you may either have some potential problems with, or areas you feel you need to improve on.

Once you have compiled these lists you will soon realise just how well you truly know yourself, and just how much good you have to offer a partner.

The above article is an excerpt from the author's book "Turn Me On: How To Attract A Man" by Darren G. Burton. To view or purchase a copy, visit: http://www.amazon.com/dp/1409221822